Lifestyle Or Professional Mistress, Which Is Which?
Now, some people think that Masters and Mistress' (Dom's and Domme's) are overrated or even strangling the real world and yes, I have noticed there are a few amateurs who feel he or she can simply state he/she can be an owner. I am not an amateur nor do I feel that what I do is to pass the time while I find something better to do. I find there is an art form and a set of rules a Dom/Domme and their Slave/Submissive must have in order to have a relationship whether it is physical or not. These rules help to ease some of the tension in the M/S relationship before anything great and enduring can come out of it. I am not going to ever stop being a Mistress/Domme and decide that this is a game to me.
Now, I cannot understand nor do I really want to get into an argument with an amateur over ownership/collaring of slaves [or submissives]. You either are owned/collared solely by one/couple or not unless there are circumstances that cannot be explained in a quick manner. This is not to see who has the most people vying to have them at their side. Try to get me to play a game of wanting you or proving myself against five other Doms or Dommes and you can take your sweet butt out the door. Try not to get too much pleasure as the door hits your backside.
I admire the Professional Mistresses' known by another alias as Dominatrix though do not confuse it. There are the professional dominants and the lifestyle dominants. A Professional Dom can be considered a Dominatrix who has a business of being paid to help submissive or switch clients enjoy fantasy play. There is no use of sexual intercourse in the Dominatrix's business because then the Dominatrix would be considered a prostitute and that is illegal. There might be CBT play or strap on, but remember unless you are paying someone initially to bed them and the person has no problem in laying back and being fucked, then you are essentially paying for a whore. Professional Mistresses' are not whores nor at they prostitutes. Try to imply it to a Professional and see if the individuals does not give you a strange or even outraged look.
Now, a Lifestyle Dominant is a female that is Dominant in her relationship whether it is in and out of the bedroom. There, the LD can have personal slaves or submissives, whether the slave is used sexually or not is at the LD's discretion. A PD (Professional Dommme) can be an LD and an LD can be a PD at the same time. A bit confusing but I will get back to you on this later as soon as the submissive I have over has stopped begging for another spanking.
Whip in one hand and tempting apple in the other,
Originally posted 10-15-2008